I have terminal cancer and am not telling my family.

The title says it all. I’m a suburban housewife. The past few years, I’ve gotten tired of the way my family is treating me. I have young adult sons. The older is finishing college and has a serious girlfriend. He barely has time for me because he prioritizes everything else. I have spent my adult life raising this child, providing for him and making sure he had many opportunities. He’s polite to others but not to me. His dad defends his behavior and says I’m too sensitive because I expect him to have a conversation with me at least once when he comes home. When he does come home, he only wants to spend time with his girlfriend. He talks to my husband about their mutual interests but either starts talking to someone else when I chime in or tells me he has to go do something and never comes back. On the occasion that he does this to my husband, he gets annoyed. When he does it to me, it’s justified because I talk about things that no one cares to hear. After being reprimanded by my husband about wanting to join the conversation and how no one was interested in hearing about what I wanted to talk about, I found out that I have cancer today. It’s stage 4. There is very little that they can do. I’m so mentally beaten down that I don’t want to tell them. They don’t realize that I don’t really have friends anymore due to being the primary caretaker to my other son who has a disability. At least I know that he loves me. I’m heartbroken that I won’t be here to take care of him. That part makes me cry when I’m alone. So does the other part but I don’t want attention now that is just to keep them from feeling guilty. Sadly, I don’t even think it would be long lasting. Thanks for letting me vent. My heart is broken but not much more than it’s been for the past few years. Just to clarify: I have not been abusive or neglectful. I have not been a martyr. I have expressed sadness at the way they have treated me, but they constantly say I’m being ridiculous. I know in my heart that this is it true.