I dont think im attracted to my husband anymore

I am a jealous person. And im on the brink of losing myself and undoing all the work I've put into healing from the past. Four years ago, my husband had a 9-month affair. He met the affair partner at Walmart while shopping for groceries. I really think it caused me to be jealous and paranoid. Recently we got new neighbors. The woman that lives next door is a rather large woman, large butt anyway. The woman who my husband cheated on me was this type of body as the neighbor. Unfortunately, I constantly keep catching him being gross and trying to catch any glimpse of her that he can. It's causing me a lot of panic. It makes me realize that he hasnt gotten any better, and he's very much still capable of doing what he did 4 years ago. Every time I leave the house, my mind asks me what if I catch him cheating with the neighbor, and I hate it so much. I feel like im losing my peace. It's causing me to feel resentment when I was doing good, moving on, healing from the mental and emotional aftermath of an affair and all the details. It's causing me to have negative reactions towards him. It's causing me chaos mentally and emotionally. Ultimately, it's making me realize im not attracted to this. Im not attracted to a man who acts hungry or who acts like they are on the market, so to speak. I do understand that all men look. Whatever. But not all men go out of their ways to gawk and catch any glimpse of another woman just to come and kiss their wife and tell them, "You're so pretty." I refuse to believe this is how all men are. It can't be true. I feel like i need space. Time away from him as I dont want to even really lay in the same bed as him, and I certainly dont want to have sex with him right now.