My husband is so tight and it’s driving me crazy.

My husband works in Finance so I get that he sees monetary risk a lot and so that’s going to always be a concern. However, he refuses to spend money on things that need to happen and I am always the one who has to compromise. We needed some decorating done, I arranged quotes and he made us go with the cheapest one who was dreadful and the work was poor, but now we have to live with it. Our kitchen could do with more storage. In truth the whole thing needs updating but again I have compromised and investigated just having some additional storage built which will be much cheaper. Yet he still says no. I need a new car. I have a decent deposit and am willing to do it on monthly payments. He wants to buy it outright in cash but I don’t have that much so he’s dictating what I can buy and saying he’ll stump up the extra cash and I can pay him back. We needed work done in the garden as our existing patio/path was falling apart. He said no initially then said if I want it done, I can pay for it despite it being something we would all use and enjoy. Then he added on extended our driveway because HE wanted that and so he paid the extra to cover that, but nothing towards the patio. Then he moans about me not having savings. He also earns about 8x more than me per year and got himself a car that costs over £1000pm on a lease (so he won’t even own it at the end) because he wanted it. I said yes on the condition he didn’t then constantly say “we cant afford it” when I suggested other things. TLDR: Unless it’s his idea, he won’t spend money on making our house a home and improving things. Or he insists I pay for it. If he pays for something I have to pay him back. I don’t know what to do any more, it’s exhausting. Edit: I tried to discuss things like civilised adults this evening and he just shut the conversation down saying he didn’t want to talk right now. When I said it’s not just him, he threw his toys out of the pram completely and shouted “Well I’ll fucking leave then.” Therefore, I’ve decided I won’t be changing my car. He wanted me to have the sensible family car when his lease ends so he could get a fun hot hatch, but dictate what I got. Nope. Not doing it. I’ll just keep mine and run it into the ground if I have to.