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SimpingHollander99
Trans woman SA me and later ended herself
Almost three years ago I was travelling solo through Asia. 3 months long I’ve been exploring different counties and meeting new people.
In Japan I met this girl from Sweden, she was nice and sweet and we really connected. For me not romantically but as friends. Because travelling is expensive we decided to share hotel rooms because our travel plan matched well.
In the first evenings I gave her room and left often outside when she prepared to sleep.
On the third night we went out drinking with a lot of other tourist. We came back drunk around 3 am and I wanted to sleep quickly. During preparing to sleep I saw that she has a penis, she told me she’s trans and that she likes me a lot. I told her I’m cool with her being trans but that I’m not interested in anything.
She started to come closer to me and touching me inappropriately. I forced her of me and told i don’t want to do anything. She got mad and yelled at me that its no different that any other girl. Then she tried to touch me again in which i threw her of me and in a drunken rage said a lot of transphobic shit at her. I grapes my stuff and left the hotel.
I’ve spend the night on the street and came back in the morning. She was gone and also all her stuff. I blocked all contact details I had of her and went to a different hotel.
I found my peace with it and continued my trip without any problems.
Last year I got a text from a Swedish number. The person texting me introduced herself as the girls sisters. Apparently not long after that time she ended her life when she came back to Sweden. In her note she mentioned me only as ‘the Dutch guy’.
Her sister spend a couple months trying to figure out who I was. Through an other travel we met she managed to figure out the hotel we stayed in. The hotel was booked under my name and by lying they gave her my number.
She told me that in the note I was mentioned as the guy that ruined her. She didn’t blame me as the reason she did it and also apologised in the letter, but she stated that our interaction was the last drop for her.
Her sister was not angry at me but wanted to understand what happend. I told my story as detailed as I can remember it.
Her family wanted me to come to Sweden so talk and to visit the grave. I told them off and what happend was not my fault or responsibility in any way. I blocked them and moved on.
7.07 AM - Aug 5, 2026